Sunday, March 30, 2008

A lot can happen in a year

It seems so funny that one year ago today I got Z's referral. Then a year ago tomorrow I turned it down. It is wonderfull how the universe or God or whatever it is works to put families together. I looked back at my emails and laughed at my hesitation in so many aspects of my life. I will take this moment to point out some of my misguided trepidation.....
1. Z's referral (ok he is like the happiest most wonderful kid in the world - I am in no way biased)
2. Keith - who is now my husband and one year ago I was telling him he couldn't call me his "future girl friend" because that was moving too fast.
So just to enumerate all of the changes in my life in the last year......
1. Z came home
2. I moved to Alabama and started a new job
3. I got married (and now knocked up!)
4. I got a minivan (ouch)

I have had a good year - lots of changes....but I think everyone I love is happier for them. I think it will settle down for a while!

Developmental update on Z - while he is still not walking he is soooo close. He stands up by himself in the middle of the room and balances there and throws his hands above his head like a gymnast planting a dismount and hollers for someone to clap for him - then throws himself down. It is very funny. Everyday when we pick him up at the nanny's we expect to hear that he took his first step. He has IA clinic 6 month follow up in 2 weeks so it will be interesting to see how he fares! I also have a week of vacation in 2 weeks and can't wait. I am taking a spa day at the bed and breakfast we had our wedding at.....facial, massage, manicure, pedicure, hot stone treatment (whatever that is!) and some lunch. Keith got it for me for my birthday in September and I am finally using it! Come on 2 weeks!

Saturday, March 22, 2008

Hard Core fatherhood

Unfortunately, I only have a mental picture instead of a real one to share here. I am on call today and Keith is home with just Z. He decided that today they are going to buy all of the lumber to build the crazy behemoth built in shelving in the playroom. He has already bought out the white coated boards from one Lowe's and is hitting at least one other one in town today.

I just talked to him and he told me that he has Z in the backpack ( from the hiking picture) and is loading up lumber onto the big stuff dolly at the store and pushing it around.

Evidently, a couple with a child a little younger than Z walked by and the woman nudged the man and said something like "look, you can get stuff done while you are watching him...see".

I just wish I had a picture of Keith with Z in the backpack pulling out giant constuction-y things.

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Alabama still sucking!


We went to the lawyer today to talk about changing Z's name to actually have a Z in it, to readopt him and for Keith to adopt him. Turns out, DHR in alabama won't let us readopt him as a married couple because we haven't been married a year.....OMG how retarded! We will have to get a new homestudy after august with like all the bells and whistles....So we will be getting Z's social security stuff with his name misspelled!
L is visiting her dad in New Orleans still and it is sooooo quiet without her here! UGG - he is bringing her back on Monday - I can't wait.

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Lazy, lazy, lazy and fat

So we are in the active phase of figuring out our taxes and I suck. I haven't gotten Zeb a social security card or readopted him in the US yet. Since we did the two trips he is already an american citizen - i just haven't gotten his social security card. I was waiting because we were going to officially change his name. Even though I intended his name to be spelled with a Z and filled out all of the paperwork with a Z - when we picked him up everything had it spelled with an S. I figured when we readopted him we would also change the spelling of his name. Hence, I decided to wait to get the social security card. However, now our accountant is telling us that we can't claim him as a dependent or get the adoption tax credit unless we have a social security number for him. I know it isn't going to be that difficult to go get - but I never have any time for anything uggg - especially during the week.
I am on call tonight and tomorrow we have a bunch of appointments and somehow I have to squeeze in a trip to the social security office and fill out the form with the supporting documents. I suppose life isn't any fun unless it is a challenge!

In other news - I am officially a hammy fat ass. none of my clothes fit me - not even my scrubs.....and that is bad. Although, since I do have experience in the maternity clothes shopping arena I know better than to actually try to go to the mall and look for clothes. There is nothing more depressing than looking at those clothes. When I was pregnant with L, I literally started crying in Dillards because all of the maternity clothes were soooo ugly. The gap maternity and novelty tshirts at cafepress are the only way to go! However, I am so overworked and lazy, i will keep wearing my scrubs until they look like maternity half shirts.

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Hiking


The weather was officially beautiful today! L is in New Orleans and went to a crawfish boil and St Patrick's day parade - while we didn't get to do anything that fun...we did go hiking at one of the parks. As you can see Zeb loves riding in the back pack. I am about to be even more outnumbered by boys! I tried to post pinewood derby pictures.... Keith won 2nd in the adult division, O won 2nd in the wolf division and L was 2nd in the sibling division....it was a clean sweep. O went to the division race this saturday and got first in the wolf division so he gets a special invitation to the state competition. I feel like the pinewood derby will never end. Keith told me they are having an "unlimited derby" whatever that is...in August. So literally the pinewood derby never ends. I will somehow survive.

The MiniVan


Ok I admit it....I drove to Meridian, Ms to drop L off with her daddy-o and it was very spacious. There wasn't as much pick up as my other car....but it was ok. Although, every time Zeb threw his little books on the ground I couldn't reach them to pick them back up and give them back. He could reach his toes to put them in his mouth so he was good!

Friday, March 14, 2008

Time flies

I can' believe how long it has been since I posted something here. I guess there hasn't really been anything going on. Z is still not walking...but he is getting so close. He plays so well - he loves balls and pushing trucks around. He fills them up with just about anything and pushes them into the other room and then unloads them. It is pretty funny. L is adjusting really well to all of the changes she has had in her life in the last year. She has her moments of totally losing it. ..don't we all? I know I do.
We have all been sick the last week and I have been working extra shifts for some extra money. We bought a mini van this week....oh the horror! To further compound the horror....it is white. I do not mean to offend anyone who may have chosen a white minivan....but white cars just don't match my 23 year old punk rock free spirit that I still believe I am (much to contrary to every single aspect of my life right now!)
Why might you ask are we getting a minivan now? I suppose it is time to fess up. I am pregnant - not the exciting paper kind - but the nauseated, gaining weight, back pain kind. Of course this is exciting too, it was just a little unexpected. I in no way want to perpetuate the myth of getting pregnant after adopting. Fertility was never involved in my reasons for adopting Zeb. In fact, I have experienced a lot of guilt over my pregnancy. I know other people have adopted while pregnant or with itty bitty babies at home - but I just don't think I can go that route. So once again, there will be a longer delay for our next adoption. I was sooo looking forward to starting it. I know there is a bigger plan and that everything works out the way it is supposed to.....but I am so jealous ( in a good way!) of my friend Shannon who is just now starting her second adoption. We went through our first together. If you are interested in helping out her fundraising effort - check out the Shannon's blog on my links!
I am going to post embarassing pictures of our new minivan soon - oh the horror!

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